Jake and I have been together for almost 4 years now and we still catch ourselves saying things like “can you believe we still talk on the phone for hours” or “we haven’t had our first fight yet”. I’m going to try and make this not sappy and straight to the point, but our relationship works and we think it’s because we do these 5 things:
1. be each other’s best friend
Jake and I talk about literally anything. First and foremost we’re friends, being attracted to each other is a plus. As crazy as it sounds, I can have my best girl talks with him. There’s nobody I would rather be stuck indoors with on a rainy day than him (on my period). Being physically attracted to each other is so important, but looks fade and so does your libido. So make sure you can see yourself and your partner sitting on a park bench as 80 years old’s and shooting the shit. In the end, that’s all you’ll have.
2. surprise each other
Jake is the KING of surprising me with gifts, and they’re the best gifts too. Not just surprising, but wanting to surprise your partner speaks volumes and shows you’re always thinking of them.
3. cut the jealousy
Save the feelings of jealousy for high school. Seriously, there’s nothing more unattractive than a lack of trust and self-confidence. And that’s all jealousy is.
4. no lies (not even white ones)
Jake says “we’re happily upfront about everything” which is so true. If I find the guy in the coffee shop hot, I don’t text my girlfriend about it. I’ll take a picture and send it to Jake. If he thinks I don’t look as great one day, he’ll tell me. There’s obviously a line between being mean and being honest. You shouldn’t feel like you need to lie about anything with your partner.
5. be yourself
Period. The disgusting, crazy things I do around Jake could easily turn off any guy but it makes Jake love me more (apparently). Being yourself is sexy and the moment you realize you don’t need to try or be anything with your partner the more you two will feel like a whole. Does that make sense? I hope so.